Agreements and Terms of Service
Please read our collaborative learning
& course container agreements thoroughly.
These agreements are designed to support a harmonious and inclusive learning community. The co-creation of our somatic community requires trust, participation, active listening and compassionate support for each other, so take time to consider and reflect on each of the agreements.
Questions & requests are included which may illuminate your specific needs within the community while encouraging you to remember the ways that you can resource and support yourself over the duration of the training.
Somatic learning doesn’t happen alone as we are interconnected beings! As the trees and living creatures in a forest collaborate to create a thriving ecosystem, supporting others in your community also supports your own growth.
“NOTICE, ALLOW and INTEND” - Deej Juventin
co-creating our relationship agreements together
Course container agreements
Exploring Relational Embodiment is a journey of self-inquiry and self-discovery and it is natural to experience at times uncomfortable moments as you update versions of yourself while encountering your learning edges.
It is our goal to create a learning environment that is inclusive and supports your participation in learning and exploring. We acknowledge the different walks of life we have all come from and how our past experiences influence our relationships and participation in groups.
We create our ground course container agreements to support everyone's participation, inviting curiosity when aspects, that are unique to each training, arise that may not have been included in our general course container agreements. We work from the understanding that relationship agreements are an ongoing process that requires updating to support each other’s harmonious participation.
The following are the course container agreements that we will all honour and respect during this training:
Confidentiality — We ask that you agree not to identify individuals, their words or their experiences on the course and not to make any recordings or take photos of people without their permission. You may share the facilitator's teachings outside of the group.
During our time together, when sharing, we encourage you to share from your personal experiences eg. I feel, I notice, I’m experiencing, etc.). This helps each of us to compassionately receive each other rather than generalising.
Feelings are welcome and do not need to be justified or explained; honour the feelings that arise in others by allowing them to feel without fixing or advising.
Be willing to stay open and free of assumptions about people's identities and experiences (eg. regarding gender, race, sexual orientation, etc). We ask that you honour the lived experience of each other in the group and use the names and pronouns people request.
During this practitioner training you will be expected to work outside of attraction and to not engage in erotic sexual relationships with other students in the group. Arousal happens and you are invited to simply notice it and practice response flexibility. Arousal is not to be cultivated or acted upon in the practitioner role.
As practitioners in training you will be expected to work outside of aversion within the wheel of consent relationship agreements (being in service within our range of optimum generosity while practising setting limits). This supports us to maintain our professional role and expands our capacity to work with a larger range of people, and we still get to have limits.
We are showing up here together as practitioners honouring the ACSB Code of Ethics. Please see the ACSB Code of Ethics to familiarise yourself with our duty of care. https://sexologicalbodyworkers.org
Use of drugs or alcohol before or during any online or in-person session is not permitted.
Practice self-awareness around ways you participate — if it’s easy for you to step in and share, maybe pause and wait a moment; if you find it challenging to join in, practice having the courage to share.
Impact and intention mismatch - at times our words and actions may impact others in ways which we may not intend. When another feels impacted by our words or actions we agree to engage in the repair processes taught on this training with compassion and humility.
Dual Roles. Some of us here might have different relationships with each other in other contexts, current or historical. Please share any dual roles that may influence our community here (whilst honouring privately agreed confidentiality).
We regard the client's role as sacred ground for all aspects of the self to have permission to express and participate in and not to be evaluated. During this training, these experiences are confidential to the group of three that you shared in and it is your choice what you share with the group.
Integration time. We encourage you to honour the roles, and responsibilities of each role, during class time and to maintain the time boundaries of these and not pursue the continuation of these roles during the breaks. This honours the breaks as integration time
Olfactory community health. Please be mindful of your personal hygiene and use of perfumed toiletries and detergents as we are not in choice with what we are breathing in. We use aromatic leaves like sage, sweet grass and essential oils eg Lavender and sweet orange for cleansing the air at times. Please share any sensitivities with any of these privately with a member of the team.
We ask that you arrive a few minutes before the start of each session or inform a member of the teacher team if you are unable to attend.
Bring an attitude of curiosity, kindness and radical acceptance. As adult learners, we are inhibited from learning new ways of being if we already “know”
We can participate in many ways - This might look like inhabiting the invited roles, taking the role of witnessing, requesting and negotiating ways of adapting the activity to support your participation or simply being present in the space.
Self-care and nervous system regulation — During our time together, please take care of your needs for sleep, rest, nourishment, and during class time, your needs for hydration & toilet, etc. If there is something specific you need please reach out to any of the teacher team.
We invite you to practise attunement and kindness with yourself as you encounter your learning edges and limits. Sometimes we don’t know our limits until we are experiencing them and it can feel vulnerable to reach out. If you discover yourself experiencing overwhelm, feel into what you might need and give yourself permission to self-regulate in a way that supports you. If you need support, please reach out and remember the teaching team is here to support you.
We invite agreement here that communication between each other is inclusive and kind.
If the teacher team is advised that a participant has not respected any of these agreements we will take action and discuss this with that participant.
If a participant continues to act outside of these agreements and is unwilling or unable to respect the course container then they will be required to leave the training and will not be offered any refund.
Co-creating our community together requires participation, contributing, being present with and supporting each other.
Somatic learning doesn’t happen by ourselves because our nervous systems are interconnected. So supporting each other supports our own growth and learning like the trees and mycelium networks support each other as part of a forest.
At the end of this training we encourage you to allow any tender new aspects of yourself to continue to be nurtured, nourished and supported. Honour your reflection and integration time until you feel ready to share with others, rather than satisfying other people’s curiosity.
Terms of Service
This agreement and the terms of service contained therein are a legally binding contract (Agreement) between you and each of your heirs, assigns, and successors (“You”) and Institute for Relational Harmony Studies and each of its principals, owners, shareholders, directors, agents, and employees, and each of their respective heirs, assigns, and successors (“IRHS”).
Acceptance of Agreement
Read this Agreement in its entirety. You should review this Agreement prior to subscribing to, purchasing, or participating in any Program. By using the IRHS websites or purchasing or participating in any Program offered by IRHS, You are agreeing to be bound by this Agreement. The term “Program” is defined to include any class, session, product, training, workshop or service and whether online or in person. It specifically includes the IRHS websites and their contents.
Indemnification
You agree to indemnify, defend and hold IRHS harmless from any and all liability, loss, damages, claim and expense, including reasonable legal fees, related to:
your violation of this Agreement
your use of the IRHS websites or contents; or
your participation or enrolment in any Program offered by IRHS
Assumption of Risk
You acknowledge that you are responsible for your choice to take part in the Program and for your own health and well-being before, during and after the Program.
IRHS makes no representations or warranties.
You assume all risk of mental, physical and personal injury, serious injury, property loss, or death which may occur in engaging with IRHS or any of its Programs or products.
If you have specific concerns or a situation in which you require professional or medical advice, you should consult with an appropriately trained and qualified specialist, such as a licensed psychologist, physician or other health professionals.
Never disregard the medical advice of a psychologist, physician or other health professionals, or delay in seeking such advice, because of the information offered or provided within a Program.
Confidentiality
You are agreeing to hold the names, identities and information of all Program participants in strict confidence. No information you hear about a fellow participant during a Program may be revealed, spoken of or written about in any way that would disclose the identity of said participant to people outside the Program unless they give explicit permission to do so.
Copyright
The content, organisation, photos, videos, audio, graphics, design and other matters produced by IRHS or used in any IRHS Programs are protected under applicable copyrights and other proprietary laws, including but not limited to intellectual property laws. The copying, recording, reproduction, use, modification or publication by You of any such matters or part thereof is strictly prohibited without the express prior permission of IRHS. When permission is given, you agree to acknowledge IRHS as the source.
IRHS Cancellation of Enrolment
IRHS reserves the right to cancel Your enrolment in any Program at any time, if at the discretion of the facilitators it is decided that You are unsuitable for the Program or that the Program is unsuitable for You.
Any refund of course fees in such eventuality is at the discretion of IRHS.
Maximum liability
Notwithstanding the Indemnity, Dispute Resolution Agreement and the other terms of this Agreement, the maximum liability of IRHS under this Agreement shall be the greater of £100 or a refund of monies paid for the Program to which any Dispute applies.
Waiver of Legal Rights and Release
To the maximum extent permitted by law, You unconditionally and forever release, discharge, hold harmless, and indemnify IRHS from any and all actions or causes of action, suits, claims, complaints, contracts, liabilities, agreements, promises, contracts, torts, debts, damages, controversies, judgments, losses, and demands of every kind or nature whether existing, contingent, or future, known or unknown, suspected or unsuspected, whether in law or equity under the laws of any jurisdiction (“Claims”), including without limitation any Claims caused by the negligence of IRHS or of any other participant in any class, program, or session hosted or supported by IRHS, that relate to, arise out of, or concern any Programs, whether or not you pay anything for such Programs or products and whether or not your Claims arise from the action or inaction of other users of such Programs, other participants in the Programs, or anyone else. You agree and intend that this waiver, release, and indemnification shall be construed broadly to provide a release and waiver to the maximum extent permissible under applicable law.
Dispute Resolution Agreement
You and IRHS agree that any and all disputes of any type that are not resolved through discussion and mutual agreement, be referred to Alternate Dispute Resolution (ADR) by a practitioner accredited by the Civil Mediation Council (“CMC”, London, charity number 1163065).
In the event that the matter cannot be resolved by mediation then You and IRHS agree to refer the matter to Arbitration by a mutually approved arbitrator, such as the London Court of International Arbitration (LCIA).
Prior to referring to ADR You and IRHS agree to attempt to resolve the matter through at least one, good faith in a person or telephone discussion without lawyers present.
Governing Law
This Agreement shall be construed and governed exclusively by the laws of England and Wales.
Refund Policy
If You cancel after you have accessed the online training materials: No refund will be made.
If you cancel up to three months before the program begins: You will receive a refund minus the non-refundable, non-transferable administrative fee of €500. If You cancel 93 days or less before the program begins: No refund will be made.
IRHS Cancellation of Programs
IRHS reserves the right to postpone or cancel any of its Programs. This may happen without notice and for any reason.
While reasonable effort will be made to complete any Program, it is unlikely but not impossible that events such as, but not limited to, death, pandemics, war, natural disaster or illness may cause the Program to be postponed or cancelled.
IRHS Postponement
If the Program or part of the Program cannot happen on the scheduled dates, it may be postponed to the next available dates.
You agree to the need to be flexible and attend on the rescheduled dates. If You cannot, You can defer to a subsequent training for a deferral fee of 30% of Your total course fees.
If there is an in-person component, refund or deferment of any fees other than IRHS course fees such as travel, accommodation, and venue fees is not the responsibility of IRHS.
Illness and Non-attendance
If for any reason You are unable to fully attend any part of the Program You will need to discuss the option of deferring to the next training with IRHS. The fee for deferral in this instance is 50% of your original course fee and re-application within a year. You will need to start the next training at the beginning.
— Katie Sarra Director of the Institute for Relational Harmony Studies
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Container agreements & Terms of Service Form
It is our goal to create a learning environment that is inclusive and supports your participation in learning and exploring. We acknowledge the different walks of life we have all come from and how our past experiences influence our relationships and participation in groups.
We create our ground course container agreements to support everyone's participation, inviting curiosity when aspects, that are unique to each training, arise that may not have been included in our general course container agreements. We work from the understanding that relationship agreements are an ongoing process that requires updating to support each other’s harmonious participation.
The following are the course container agreements that we will all honour and respect during this training.
By checking and submitting the form you are agreeing to the Container Agreements and Terms of Service.
Post your unanswered Question here
We welcome you to post any questions that haven't been answered here and we will send you an email with answers and/or invite you with a booking link to arrange a 15 - minute call with Katie Sarra - Director of Studies or Phoebe Garland - Head of the CSSE Training.