RHI Somatic Intimacy Coach & Bodywork Practitioner & Supervisor Directory

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RHI Somatic Intimacy Coach & Bodywork Practitioner

& Supervisor Directory

Your practitioner will help you explore step-by-step practices that will support you in inhabiting new ways of being.

You decide together with your practitioner which practices will support your growth.

Our Somatic Intimacy Coaches and Bodywork Practitioners are all trained in the REEF™ (Relational Erotic and Emotional Fluency) coaching model as developed by Katie Sarra and Phoebe Garland. This has foundations in research, teachings, and practices from a wide range of specialisms encountered by Katie and Phoebe in their 40 years of clinical practice, including Affective Relational Neuroscience, Neuro Psycho-Analysis, Mindfulness, Art Psychotherapy, Shamanic and Psychedelic-assisted programs, Sexological Bodywork®, Tantra, Bio-energetics, Neuro Linguistic Programming, Body Poem™, Wheel of Consent®, and Right Use Of Power™.

All our CSI, CSIB Practitioners & CSSE Supervisors are trained in facilitating online from anywhere in the world. You can search for CSIB practitioners in your geographical location.

Our somatic Intimacy Coaches and Bodywork practitioners are trained to facilitate over 45 somatic practices to enhance your embodied decision-making in intimate relationships with yourself and others.

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You will be guided through what we call ‘Somatic Assessments’ for enhancing your confidence in intimate decision-making. 

These include enhancing your somatic recognition of your YES and NO …and how to tell the difference.

Learning how to recognise and represent your limits before it's too late.

These practices include empowering your agency and building confidence through The Wheel of Consent to explore co-created relationship agreements we are all on board with; becoming fluent in navigating intimate space and distances; role-playing repair processes; becoming fluent in your creative self-expression; healing body image concerns; and many more.

We all carry culturally influenced internalised inhibitions that interrupt our receptivity and attunement for trusting our authentic spontaneity.

Learning to explore, and try out, discovering new, confident, self-expressive ways of being.

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These are journeys into deeper self-acceptance that build your confidence to make changes in your relationships and life choices, moving away from what is not right for you and towards what brings you gratitude.

Your practitioner is trained to support your confidence in co-creating informed, intimate decision-making and to help you heal from the emotional hangovers of times when you might have been in endurance or suffered from decisions that have not worked well for you.

Deepening our attuned relationship with our body supports being informed by it, rather than by our mind’s projections, as we navigate agreements in intimate relationships.

We are most disabled when we are unable to represent ourselves. This may be due to not knowing what we want, losing sensations, or lacking confidence.

Our practitioners are trained to support you with erotic and emotional fluency and regulation so that whatever arises in a session can be welcomed and navigated together - including trauma responses. There may be aspects of your life you feel some shame or shyness about and want to be liberated from, and your practitioner can be alongside you, helping you out of loneliness that is so common when we are experiencing shame.

Some examples of Presenting concerns:

  • Overcoming loss of libido, difficulties with managing arousal or achieving orgasm

  • Recovery after surgery with our tried and tested scar tissue remediation practices that transform scars and gain flexibility

  • Preparation and recovery from genital reconfiguration surgery and re-routing new orgasmic/pleasure pathways

  • Overcoming Emotional pain, anxiety, and loss of confidence in relationships

  • Navigating and recovering erotic confidence during and after childbirth, menopause or any other event in life where the relationship with our body is changing.

  • Recovery from relationship grief and reclaiming your life.

  • Intimacy training for those lacking experience or who are virgins

  • Healing from historical traumas that affect intimacy and confidence, and learning new ways of strengthening resilience and robustness.

  • Overcoming feeling numb with loss of sensation and learning new ways of feeling more of yourself

  • Developing ejaculatory choice and enhancing your range of pleasure

  • Finding new ways of managing sex and porn addiction or fetish entrapment.

  • Support with navigating challenging ‘turn-ons’, intrusive inner dialogue or imagery and learning new ways of being that effectively manage and transform your life from passivity to agency.

  • Overcoming loss of confidence with identity and enhancing body image confidence

  • Wanting to explore sexual orientation concerns and discover what and who is attractive

  • Expanding sexual and intimacy repertoire and learning new intimacy relationship skills

  • Changing outdated strategies that are not working for you anymore

Our methods have been tried and tested over 40 years of clinical practice & research.

Somatic Intimacy Coaching & Bodywork

All our practitioners undergo a rigorous training, assessment, and certification process. We feel confident in recommending all of our Certified Somatic Intimacy Coaches & Bodyworkers. All of our practitioners are trained to facilitate our REEF session structures, which include The Wheel of Consent, Right Use of Power repair processes, and Body Poem.

Body Poem

We also train practitioners from other therapeutic modalities, such as Cranial Sacral practitioners, Psychotherapists, Counsellors, and Bodywork Practitioners in Body Poem (listing on the Body Poets practitioner listing coming soon).

Our practitioners help you inhabit new ways of authentic being.

Professional Specialist Supervision for Practitioners

Our CSSE Somatic Sex Educators and Professional Supervisors are trained to facilitate your professional supervision needs, informed by the Right Use of Power™, Body Poem™, and The Wheel of Consent™, to meet the specialised ethical requirements to practice in this field.

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‘My passion for ethics and Affective Relational Psychodynamic Neuroscience, Body Poem, Right Use of Power, and Wheel of Consent influenced sexuality practice has led to the development of the current Relational Harmony Institute, co-directed by Dr Phoebe Garland, who brings with her thirty years of medical and mindfulness practice that has led to the development of a syllabus that is a dream coming true for me for our profession.’ - Katie Sarra

Here is an interview with Katie Sarra that describes and unpacks ways to understand Body Poem™ and how Body Poem enhances Sexological Bodywork & Somatic Intimacy Coaching.

Meet our RHI CSSE Professional Supervisors & Faculty

Aisha Paris Smith CSI, CSIB, CSSE & Somatic Sex Educator & Supervisor

Luzi Pods CSI, CSIB, CSSE & Somatic Sex Educator & Supervisor

Emerald May CSI, CSIB, CSSE & Somatic Sex Educator & Supervisor in training

Karen Egan CSI, CSIB, CSSE & Somatic Sex Educator & Supervisor

Marin Marie CSI, CSIB, CSSE & Somatic Sex Educator & Supervisor

Arantxa Joseph CSI, CSIB, CSSE & Somatic Sex Educator & Supervisor

  • What is Radical acceptance?

    To love is to accept, receive and digest. Humans are alchemical ecosystems in the process of digesting our life experiences in symbiotic union with the colonies of bacteria and viruses that live in us and around us.

  • Self Acceptance

    Radical acceptance begins with our own ecosystem. 

    Before we can integrate, we need to see the forms within us differentiated out of the blind soup of our beings.

  • Justice is being with the Just is

    Radical acceptance includes our rejections and the harm we have caused and the harm we have been impacted with. The pain of this acceptance is an understandable withdrawal from love and unity.

  • Self Expression

    Finding words that come close to describing these emotional, sensual, and physical multidimensional aspects of ourselves literally activates receptors of self-acceptance when we are witnessed with radical acceptance.

  • Kindness with our inner critics

    Radical includes acceptance with our internal self-referencing inner dialogue. For example to self-evaluating aspects of ourselves that are maintaining our adaptive belonging.

  • Easing the pain

    Reframes, advice and affirmations may feel comforting like a bandage for our wounds to feel protected and cared for but when the time is right to be freed from these, it is radical acceptance that will ease the pain

  • Courage to be seen

    Under the bandage, wounds from our dark nights of the soul remain unseen and these exiled aspects of ourselves are sent back into the unseen bowels of humanity to endure continued separation until we are supported with courage to be seen with radical acceptance

  • Repair

    Cycles of undigested exiled aspects of humanity are ultimately seeking to be seen from underneath the shame bandages that have been nursing them.

    Being seen requires acknowledgement and understanding so we can repair and allow our remorse to teach us to learn not to harm again. 

Many of our practitioners are also specialised in working with couples to help you come together and get back on the same page after ruptures in your attunement and understanding of each other.

We offer practices for you both to inhabit new ways of being, so you can grow together and deepen your intimacy skills with each other.

You may wish to overcome troublesome turn-ons, intrusive inner dialogue, or repeating patterns in relationships that no longer serve your best interests.

This may include exploring core erotic themes that are unconsciously driving your relationship choices.

For some, hypersensitivity in arousal or numbness and loss of arousal alongside emotions or loss of feelings may be limiting your choice with your confidence in intimate situations.

Taoist Erotic Massage practices

These practices involve being guided in up- and down-regulated breathing patterns to enhance arousal regulation. Habits of going off into erotic fantasy or shame were seen as distractions, with body-focusing guidance on bringing back attention to the body, offering immersion in sustained sexual arousal. The receiver bathes in the altered states of having journeyed with waves of arousal.

However, for some, these down-regulated altered states led to emotional hangovers and the awakening of implicit memories that some practitioners were not trained in holding space for feeling out at sea, waving red flags, and nobody recognising them.

Alongside Betty Martin, developing consensual relationship agreements with the Wheel of Consent, I was developing the ‘I want’ as an antidote to the Tantra Massage treatment model, in which versions of what was expected were either disappointing or surprising for both the practitioner and the client, without clarity at the outset.

Coming from a psychoanalytic background, influencing my facilitation, I could see the somatic opening potential for re-traumatising as well as for integrating exiled aspects of self. I witnessed one too many casualties in emotional hangovers with shame snowballing shame.

Our Relational Harmony Institute training program for practitioners has developed trauma-informed ways of facilitating working with altered states, making this area of exploration now possible.

The shaming of shame

This has become a widespread problem in our field of sexuality, from when somatic embodiment erotic practices were taught in the early waves of shame-busting, leading to an exhibitionistic route to shame-free. Sexuality trainings and workshops have multiplied in our field, influenced by the anarchic days where anything could happen and did!

There were widespread undercurrents of shame, with individuals at the effect of emotional hangovers having ‘gone along’ with what the influencers were guiding, magnified by the pressures to belong in these communities.

Betty Martin acutely noticed this tendency in the field of sexuality and developed the Wheel of Consent, which has revolutionised sexual practices, shifting from a traditional treatment model to one that facilitates active receiving through relationship agreements, focusing on choice and attuned decision-making rather than the doing-and-being-done-to approaches.

The Wheel of Consent offers the titration required for many people entering into erotic bodywork practices, which all our RHI practitioners are trained in.

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)

From under the cloaks of shame, many have 'come out' and come home into collective power belonging, and this has hugely influenced our field of sexuality concerning ethical practice.

These studies have proven that the mind alone cannot heal what is tortured inside the body, and it is the body that is keeping the score with the mind managing this.

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) was first widely recognised with the symptoms of flashbacks observed and experienced by war veterans, and is a known life-destroying consequence of war that has impacted so many. And it is not just war that impacts a person’s safety and well-being. Many of us have come through experiences that were too much to handle alone

Psychologists, psychiatrists, neuroscientists and psychotherapists researched together to deepen knowledge for understanding trauma and ways of integrating exiled grief and pain.

Bessel van der Kolk, in his book 'The Body Keeps the Score', articulated and brought home into hearts the heartbreak of the trauma responses to unintegrated, unwitnessed suffering and pain. He normalised our common understanding, which has offered liberation to many living in hiding with pathologised identities, who thought they were not normal and would never lead harmonious lives, have the grounded ability to be of service and contribute to society, or be in non-dramatic, intimate relationships.

Our RHI practitioners are trained to understand and work with trauma, which is integral to our session structure and coaching model.